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# Redefining Us

Christian Singlehood and Relationship Blog

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## Posts

- [Blog](https://redefiningus.co/blog/) - Visit our blog for stories, lessons and advice that will help make your singlehood and your relationships purposeful and God-glorifying!
- [EASY Guide: Where Did My Money Go? (with Free Worksheet!)](https://redefiningus.co/post/where-did-my-money-go/) - Here's a guide with a free worksheet and free video tutorial on how to manage your budget and track where your money went.
- [How to Set Standards in a Relationship (FREE Worksheet!)](https://redefiningus.co/post/how-to-set-standards-in-a-relationship/) - Did you know that there are 4 areas to look at when considering who to date? Here's how to set standards in a relationship.
- [ULTIMATE Guide to Goal Setting for Couples | FREE Worksheet](https://redefiningus.co/post/goal-setting-for-couples-worksheet-examples/) - We HIGHLY recommend doing goal setting for couples! We'd like to share with you a FREE WORKSHEET with examples from our own goal-setting.
- [4 PROVEN Tips On How to Be a Godly Girlfriend](https://redefiningus.co/post/how-to-be-a-godly-girlfriend/) - Season your single life with prayer & preparation. Here are 4 tips on how to be a Godly girlfriend--for when you are IN a relationship or preparing for one!
- [How Should a Christian Relationship Progress? 5 Stages of Growth](https://redefiningus.co/post/how-should-a-christian-relationship-progress/) - Learn how should a Christian relationship progress — from spiritual alignment to engagement. Practical, grace-filled, and grounded in biblical wisdom.
- [Play Nation Philippines: Best Gaming Date Place in Manila](https://redefiningus.co/post/play-nation-philippines/) - We've learned that the couple who plays together, stops quarreling with one another! We enjoyed our time at Play Nation Philippines - here's our story.
- [EASY Guide To Doing  SOAP Devotions -- with EXAMPLE!](https://redefiningus.co/post/how-to-do-devotion-using-the-soap-method/) - Ever wanted to have quiet time but don't know how to start? Here's a quick guide--with examples--on how to do devotions using the SOAP method.
- [What You Need to Know About an Unequally Yoked Relationship](https://redefiningus.co/post/what-you-need-to-know-about-an-unequally-yoked-relationship/) - Learn what an unequally yoked relationship really is, why it matters, and how to move forward with wisdom and grace rooted in Christ.
- [5 PROVEN Tips on How to Be Content in Singleness](https://redefiningus.co/post/5-proven-tips-on-how-to-be-content-in-singleness/) - Struggling with how to be content in singleness? These 5 grace-filled tips will help you embrace joy, purpose, and peace right where you are.
- [How to Handle a Strong, Independent Woman -- 6 Tips!](https://redefiningus.co/post/how-to-handle-a-strong-independent-woman-6-tips/) - If you're wondering how to handle a strong, independent woman -- especially when it comes to dating, relationships, and marriage, here are 6 proven tips.
- [4 Stages of Moving On From A Heart Break](https://redefiningus.co/post/4-stages-of-moving-on/) - Going through a heart break? Maybe after a break-up or a failed relationship? Here are the 4 stages of moving on from it.
- [How To Establish Opposite Gender Friendship Boundaries](https://redefiningus.co/post/opposite-gender-friendship-boundaries/) - In this blog post, we will share some tips on how to establish opposite gender friendship boundaries. Setting limits on platonic friendships is important to make sure that we keep them healthy!
- [Should Dating Couples Do Devotions Together? We EXPLAIN It!](https://redefiningus.co/post/should-christian-couples-do-devotions-together/) - It's exciting to be in a relationship with someone with the same faith! That said, we ask: Should dating couples read the Bible together? Should dating couples do devotions together?
- [How to Handle Being Too Busy For a Relationship](https://redefiningus.co/post/how-to-handle-being-too-busy-for-a-relationship/) - Are you or your boyfriend too busy for a relationship? Here are FOUR TIPS on how to handle balancing a relationship with career, ministry & life!
- [2 KEY Qualities of a Good Husband in the Bible](https://redefiningus.co/post/is-he-husband-material/) - He's cute, he's charming...but is he husband material? The ultimate question is if the guy has qualities that are good for marriage!
- [The ULTIMATE Guide to Staying Pure During Engagement](https://redefiningus.co/post/staying-pure-during-engagement/) - Question's been popped, he's put a ring on it. Can we go and have sex now? We've got tips on staying pure during engagement and why it matters.
- [How to Guess Someone's Love Language](https://redefiningus.co/post/how-to-guess-someones-love-language/) - It's a challenge for some to have their partner take a quiz, or even to directly ask. So, we are giving some tips to on how to "guess" someone's love language.
- [8 Tips on How to Turn Down a Christian Guy or ANY Guy Nicely](https://redefiningus.co/post/how-to-turn-down-a-christian-guy/) - He's nice, sweet and God-fearing--but you know that it won't progress towards a serious romantic relationship. How do you turn down a Christian guy?
- [The MOST IMPORTANT Tips For Writing Wedding Vows](https://redefiningus.co/post/3-important-tips-for-writing-your-wedding-vows/) - Despite having sincere motives and deep feelings, most people have a tough time preparing for their wedding vows. Check out this post for tips to help you out.
- [PROVEN Tips for When a Guy Ignores You After an Argument](https://redefiningus.co/post/what-to-say-when-a-guy-ignores-you-after-an-argument/) - Ever been given the cold shoulder after a fight? Here are tips on what you can say when a guy ignores you after an argument to help him communicate.
- [TOUCHING Personal Wedding Vows of a Christian Bride](https://redefiningus.co/post/wedding-vow-christian-bride-tagalog/) - Here's an example of touching personal wedding vows from a bride for a Christian wedding -- honest and heartfelt, made by Meki
- [EASY Guide to Choosing a Bible Reading Plan for Devotion](https://redefiningus.co/post/choosing-a-bible-reading-plan/) - Some want to start doing devotions but are clueless how to choose a Bible Reading Plan. In this post, we'discuss how to choose what to read in the Bible daily.
- [2 IMPORTANT Qualities of a Good Wife Material in the Bible](https://redefiningus.co/post/qualities-of-a-good-wife-material/) - What are the qualities of a good wife material? Is it enough that she's pretty or that she can cook well? Find out in this post.
- [How to Put God in the Center of Your Relationship - 3 Ways!](https://redefiningus.co/post/how-to-put-god-in-the-center-of-your-relationship/) - Ever wonder what a Christ-centered relationship looks like? Here are some PRACTICAL TIPS on how to have a Godly dating relationship.
- [How to Court a Woman: 6 Proven Steps!](https://redefiningus.co/post/how-to-court-a-girl-tagalog/) - We get mixed messages from friends and from media - but here's a guide on doing Christian courtship in a way that is respectful and God-glorifying.
- [5 Tips on How to Live a Single Christian Life](https://redefiningus.co/post/how-to-enjoy-being-a-christian-single/) - It can be fun to be a Christ-follower even if while you're not yet in a relationship. That said, here are some ideas on how to enjoy being a Christian single.
- [How To Save Money For A Wedding in 6 Months](https://redefiningus.co/post/how-to-save-money-for-a-wedding-in-6-months/) - Are you wondering how to save money for a wedding in 6 months? Get to know how we saved 200,000 pesos ($4,000) over 6 months for ours without scrimping or stress!
- [6 REALLY Nice Things to Say to Your Spouse](https://redefiningus.co/post/6-things-to-say-to-your-partner-everyday/) - Have you ever wondered about the things that you need to say to your partner everyday? Here are six really nice things to say to your spouse!
- [The Most HONEST Review of ArtSector Gallery in Rizal](https://redefiningus.co/post/artsector-gallery-review/) - We recently headed to ArtSector Gallery and Chimney Cafe 360 in Binangonan, Rizal. Is it worth the visit? Let's find out.
- [Can You Have More Than One Love Language?](https://redefiningus.co/post/can-you-have-multiple-love-languages/) - Ever wondered how many love languages you can have? Can you actually have more than one love language? Let's find out if you can have multiple love languages!
- [Two Sides of Love Languages: Giving vs Receiving](https://redefiningus.co/post/two-sides-of-love-languages-giving-and-receiving/) - Can the way that I express love and the way I want to receive love be different? There are two sides of love languages -- giving vs receiving.
- [INSPIRING Personal Wedding Vows from Groom to Bride](https://redefiningus.co/post/wedding-vow-christian-groom-tagalog/) - Here's an example of touching personal wedding vows from a groom for a Christian wedding -- honest and heartfelt, made by Natz.
- [Ghost Coffee Antipolo Review - Best Coffee Shop Along Marcos Highway?](https://redefiningus.co/post/ghost-coffee-antipolo-review/) - In the middle of the hustle and bustle of Marcos Highway, we found an under-the-radar coffee shop that will definitely be one of our new tambayans.
- [We Failed to Save Our First Kiss for Marriage](https://redefiningus.co/post/failed-to-save-our-first-kiss-for-marriage/) - We wanted to save our first kiss for marriage...but we failed. But that's not the end of the story! Here's what happened as we tried to go back on track.
- [Fino Deli Review - A Great Date Place in Marikina!](https://redefiningus.co/post/fino-deli-review-marikina/) - In case you were looking for a great date place in Marikina, or maybe something classy for a family celebration, Fino Deli has probably come up as a suggestion.
- [Marriage is For Losers - A Realization on Relationships](https://redefiningus.co/post/marriage-is-for-losers/) - Are you trying to "win" in your relationships and your marriage? Here's a story of how we discovered that love...especially marriage is for losers.
- [Uratex Permahard Bio-Aire Mattress Pad Review](https://redefiningus.co/post/uratex-permahard-bio-aire-mattress-pad-review/) - Want a good night's rest? Here are our thoughts on the Uratex Permahard Bio-Aire Mattress Pad -- the best egg crate mattress in the Philippines!
- [Why You Should Date a Godly Man](https://redefiningus.co/post/why-you-should-date-a-godly-man/) - Why should you date a Godly man? Here's a story of how being with a man full of faith helped keep my peace.
- [When God Says "Not Right Now"](https://redefiningus.co/post/when-god-says-not-now-we-don-t-listen/) - Is God telling you to wait before jumping into that relationship? Here's a story of what happened when God said "not right now" but I didn't listen.
- [Lessons Learned from a "No Label" Relationship](https://redefiningus.co/post/lessons-learned-from-a-no-label-relationship/) - Read this story from a lady and the lessons she learned from being a Christian single woman then in a no label relationship.
- [A Christian Single Woman's Letter to My Future Husband](https://redefiningus.co/post/christian-single-letter-to-future-husband/) - This is a Christian single's letter to my 'future husband', written during years of waiting and wondering on why we can't be together yet.
- [God's Best and Relationship Non-Negotiables](https://redefiningus.co/post/god-s-best-and-non-negotiables/) - What do you look for in "God's best"? What are your relationship non-negotiables? We learned something about having a "list".
- [What Does "Comfort" in Comfort Food Really Mean?](https://redefiningus.co/post/the-story-of-my-comfort-food/) - I'd normally associate sushi and doughnuts with the need for comfort after a heartbreak. That all changed thanks to my husband.
- [How to Deal with the Past in Your Relationship](https://redefiningus.co/post/dealing-with-the-past-in-relationships/) - Most people say that you should not bring up the past in your relationship. How do you really deal with the past in your relationship?
- [Getting Married During the COVID Pandemic - Simple Wedding!](https://redefiningus.co/post/married-during-the-pandemic-in-the-philippines/) - It's kind of crazy to think that we got married during the COVID pandemic! Here's our story of we pushed through with our small wedding!
- [Lessons Learned from One Month of Being Married](https://redefiningus.co/post/lessons-learned-on-our-first-month-of-marriage/) - Here are four lessons we learned from one month of being married! It's been a colorful one month of married life for us here at Redefining Us!
- [Our Intimate Marriage Proposal](https://redefiningus.co/post/the-proposal/) - Here is a look at our intimate engagement / my then boyfriend's marriage proposal, done in front of my family here in the Philippines!
- [Feeling Sad About My Postponed Wedding](https://redefiningus.co/post/feeling-sad-about-postponed-wedding/) - It's okay to feel sad about your postponed wedding. Here's how we tried to cope with being impacted by the whole coronavirus pandemic (COVID).
- [8 Things I Like About My Boyfriend](https://redefiningus.co/post/8-things-for-8-months/) - To celebrate our 8 months of togetherness, here are 8 things I like about my boyfriend. This is on top of SO MANY THINGS that I already talked about.
- [When Your Boyfriend is Negative About Everything](https://redefiningus.co/post/boyfriend-is-negative-about-everything/) - Guys tend to have such high expectations for themselves. It's pretty usual to find then that for some season, your boyfriend is negative about everything.
- [Help! My Partner is Always Correcting Me!](https://redefiningus.co/post/my-partner-is-always-correcting-me/) - Is your partner always correcting you? Here's a story on how we discovered how to best respond to correction. Yup, no tantrums or revenge included!

## Pages

- [Home](https://redefiningus.co/) - Redefining Us is a Christian relationship blog sharing true-to-life stories, practical advice and Biblical learnings on faith, life, singlehood & relationships.
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- [Take the First Step](https://redefiningus.co/relationship-first-step/) - Take the First Step Want a purposeful life and purposeful relationships? We're glad you visited this page. Since you're here, it must mean that you're looking to bring purpose and meaning to your life and to your relationships. Want to know a secret? If you want a life and your relationships to be fruitful and
- [How can we help?](https://redefiningus.co/how-can-we-help/) - We want to help with your life and relationships! Redefining Us provides one-on-one counselling and advice sessions, online Bible studies, and event speaking!
- [About](https://redefiningus.co/about/) - We are Natz & Meki Carolino-Fetil. Our goal as a couple is that through our being together, we would be able to point people to Jesus, and showcase the Gospel.
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- [God's Best](https://redefiningus.co/post/tag/gods-best/)
- [Relationship Standards](https://redefiningus.co/post/tag/relationship-standards/)
- [Relationship Non-Negotiables](https://redefiningus.co/post/tag/relationship-non-negotiables/)
- [Waiting](https://redefiningus.co/post/tag/waiting/)
- [Future Husband](https://redefiningus.co/post/tag/future-husband/)
- [No Label Relationship](https://redefiningus.co/post/tag/no-label-relationship/)
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- [Budgeting](https://redefiningus.co/post/tag/budgeting/)
- [Egg Crate Mattress](https://redefiningus.co/post/tag/egg-crate-mattress/)
- [Product Review](https://redefiningus.co/post/tag/product-review/)
- [Goal-Setting](https://redefiningus.co/post/tag/goal-setting/)
- [Time Management](https://redefiningus.co/post/tag/time-management/)
- [What to Look For in a Relationship](https://redefiningus.co/post/tag/what-to-look-for-in-a-relationship/)
- [Life Partner](https://redefiningus.co/post/tag/life-partner/)
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