Can You Have More Than One Love Language?

Can you have multiple love languages

Have you ever wondered how many love languages you can have? Can you have more than one love language? Can your love language be all of them? Dr. Chapman, in his books on the Five Love Languages says that we usually have one primary and one secondary language.

Having More Than One Love Language

From our experience, it seems that this holds:

We actually are able to express or enjoy EACH of the five love languages– but with varying impact.

Can your love language be all of them? The answer is YES…to an extent. My ranking, for example, for my giving love language would be:

  1. Giving Gifts
  2. Quality Time
  3. Acts of Service
  4. Physical Touch
  5. Words of Affirmation

We have to learn to speak all five languages as much as we can since we encounter a lot of people who have different needs.

Of course we’d still have a “mother tongue”, but it would help to learn how to speak each language even to a certain degree. It is, after all, not impossible to do. We can have multiple love languages / more than one love language after all! We have family members, friends, officemates, churchmates, our romantic partner, siblings, neighbors, etc. Just like how speaking various languages makes it easy for a traveller to interact with people from many places, learning how to speak the FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES will allow you to better relate with others as well.

From My Personal Experience

And my ranking for my receiving love language would be:

  1. Quality Time
  2. Acts of Service
  3. Physical Touch
  4. Words of Affirmation
  5. Receiving Gifts

I have gifts as the lowest love language but that doesn’t mean that I will take offense in receiving a gift. If it’s done in love, it will still be appreciated — although maybe not as much as other expressions of love. On the other hand, if my top love languages (QUALITY TIME / ACTS OF SERVICE) are not met, then I will still not be as “loved” no matter how many gifts you give.

So, can you have multiple love languages? Can you have more than one love language? Can your love language be all of them? Yes, you can. And it may be of benefit to you and your loved ones if you actually make an effort to improve on each language.


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18 thoughts on “Can You Have More Than One Love Language?”

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  2. I love this post. I think all of us have more than one love language. I just think we all have one that’s a little more prominent than another.

  3. I love the idea of cultivating more than one love language, especially if you already tend to use more than one anyway. I think it’s a wonderful idea.

  4. I agree with you on this topic. One can have many love languages and I do too. It was confusing at the begining but I think I am aware noe.

  5. I believe that I have the first 4 on your list but I am not very good with the 5th one. I grew up in a family that giving gifts was not really practiced. Or if it was, just sparingly.

  6. I believe that you can have multiple love languages. However, we also all have a primary love language. It is important to recognize your own primary love language and that of your partner. As well, it is great to cultivate additional love languages.

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  8. Languages of love, I absolutely love this! I agree there are different aspects of love for different people in our lives and who we encounter. This is such an important awareness to have. Thanks for sharing this content!

  9. Love the idea of finding a dominant love language for each person so we can serve them better.
    You’re right, giving gifts to someone when they long for physical touch simply won’t cut it.

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