ULTIMATE Guide to Goal Setting for Couples | FREE Worksheet

Goal Setting for Couples

We HIGHLY recommend doing goal setting for couples especially if you’re already married or you’re at least getting married soon! Just a few months back, my husband and I got around to doing some goal setting as a couple and it really helped us to understand why we became a couple.
We’d like to share with you a FREE WORKSHEET with examples from our own goal-setting. This is highly recommendable if you want to learn how to make a life plan with your partner–especially for Christian couples as we also set some goals in terms of our spiritual walk and our ministry.

Why Goal Setting for Couples is Important

1 – Purpose and Direction

As mentioned above, goal setting for couples is important as it helps give you purpose and direction. Why did you become a couple? What benefit would it bring to you as individuals, to you as a couple, to the society, and to God’s Kingdom now that you are together? Doing some goal setting as a couple can help bring you back to your “WHY” and can help you see how God can use your relationship / marriage for His glory.
May it be our desire to leave behind a legacy that will change generations!

2 – Focus and Pace

Managing life as an individual is complex enough. Now imagine doing it for two people (and even more, if you have children)! Goal setting for couples helps us to focus our energy and effort on things that matter and to make sure that you do stuff at the right pace.

We can attest to this because we fell into the trap early on in our marriage that we want to do everything that we can do at the same time — take classes, lead Bible studies, start a business, rear a child, build a house, etc. Because of proper goal setting, we became more realistic about our limits yet at the same time had “God space” to trust that He will help us with our goals.

3 – Teamwork!

Instead of competing with one another, doing goal setting as a couple can help reorient you both to be on the same team! Achievements are now joint achievements and challenges are now joint challenges! You don’t have to “win” against your partner anymore, as you’ll be working towards the same goals.

Goal Setting for Couples, Worksheet examples free

How to Do Goal Setting for Couples (with FREE Worksheet and Examples)

1 – Set a time

Set a time to do goal setting as a couple. Set aside a few hours in a day when you’re both relaxed and rested and not pre-occupied with your other responsibilities.

2 – Prepare your worksheet and pray together

Download the worksheet at the bottom of this blog post. Pray together as you start setting your goals. Let God lead you and direct you — submit and commit your plans to Him, and allow Him to show you His purpose on why you became a couple.

3 – Define areas where you want to set your goals

What areas do you want to consider for goal setting as a couple? If you’re a Christian couple like us, you may want to go beyond just money and health.

Here are the areas we’ve considered for ourselves — you can also see these in our Goal Setting for Couples worksheet:

  • Ministry
  • Spiritual
  • Financial/ Material
  • Career
  • Passion/ Side Hustle
  • Health
  • Learning
  • Giving – we put this as a separate item from the “Financial/Material” area as this one is more focused on money going out, rather than going in
  • Marriage – this is separate as well from “Family” goals as we want to build our marriage too, and not just our rearing of children
  • Family

4 – Define your over-all goal for each area

Why do you want to succeed in this area? What is the over-all goal you want to achieve? Think big! A key component to goal setting for couples is to know your “why”. Is it just for personal glory or for vanity? This part will help make sure that you are setting goals not just for achievement’s sake. Make sure to consider this as you go through the process of how to make a life plan with your partner.

Note: Don't be too specific in this part yet. This normally would be an all-encompassing / high-level statement.

Here is an example — you can also see these in our Goal Setting for Couples worksheet under the “My-over-all goal for this area is to…” column:

Goal Setting for Couples Worksheet Examples Free

5 – Define your three-year objective for each area

This is where you start becoming more specific in your goal-setting as a couple. Think long-term first and list down what you want to achieve for each area in 3 years. Include those that you should have completed consistently over the years and those that will only be done by then.

Include objectives as individuals that may directly affect the other person (e.g. education, career, etc). Also, you have to make sure that it’s ALIGNED WITH THE GOAL you stated in step #3. This is how this goal setting for couples worksheet helps — it reminds you to stick to the big picture goal.

Here is an example — you can also see these in our Goal Setting for Couples worksheet under the “In three years, we will…” column:

Goal Setting for Couples Worksheet Examples Free

6 – Define your one-year goal

What measurable things would you like to achieve in each area in 1 year? Make sure that it’s aligned with your GOAL for that area
And for some cases, these can directly help you attain your 3-year objective. (For example: If you want to have your own house built in 3 years, then in 1 year, you should have started to purchase a lot or applied for a loan, etc.)

Note: This is something that you will do every year for 3 years, as this Goal Setting for Couples Worksheet is set for a 3-year view.
Here is an example — you can also see these in our Goal Setting for Couples worksheet under the “This year, we will…” column of the Year 1 tab:

Goal Setting for Couples Worksheet Examples Free

7 – Define the regular tasks you need to take to help achieve one-year goal, three year goal, or the over-all objective

What measurable things can you do regularly (daily, weekly, monthly, occasionally) to help you attain your over-all goal and 3-year and 1-year objectives? This is what you will monitor frequently.

Here is an example — you can also see these in our Goal Setting for Couples worksheet under the “Regularly, we will…” column of the Year 1 tab:

Goal Setting for Couples Worksheet Examples Free

8 – Monitor regularly

Regularly revisit your regular, 1-year and 3-year objectives. Mark them in the document with their corresponding status:

Goal Setting for Couples Worksheet Examples Free

  • Not Started – Initial status of all tasks
  • On Track – Activity is in progress and you are on track to complete it
  • At Risk – Activity is in progress, but there is a likelihood for delay due to some factors
  • Off Track – Activity is off track / delayed based on the plan
  • Completed – Task / objective is done and achieved

In the Goal Setting for Couples Worksheet, the cells have been programmed to be colored automatically based on your selected status.

  • GREY – Not Started
  • GREEN – On Track
  • YELLOW – At Risk
  • RED – Off Track
  • BLUE – Completed

Goal Setting for Couples Worksheet Examples Free

Update this regularly and revisit every year to put in your Year 2 and Year 3 goals. Once you’re done with Year 3, just start the template anew 🙂

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12 thoughts on “ULTIMATE Guide to Goal Setting for Couples | FREE Worksheet”

  1. Goal setting is so useful if you want to make your life more focused and intentional. I like the way you used colour coding in your tracking chart – easy to see at a glance how the goals are going.

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  3. I love the various categories there are to consider! I don’t often make goals with my spouse. Right now our main focus is saving up for a house and our other goals tend to be more individual. I think planning like this would be really helpful! I love the look of your couples worksheet!

  4. I love the idea of goal setting for couples. It is something that we might just talk about, but sitting down and making a specific plan and more importantly having a way to monitor that plan is essential for couples. My husband and I have done specific financial goal settings, but the other stuff we just talk about/dream about. This is great advice.

  5. Haven’t really done goal setting together with my spouse. But going through your thoughts I realize there are certain areas where I need to sit down and discuss. One area certainly to look at for us is to make her life more secure in her old days. Changing accommodation from a top floor one to a ground floor would be one of the priorities as the current one does not have an elevator. Thanks for the tips to get going.

  6. My husband and I have recently been talking about our goals together, as we are coming to the point where it is time to make some big life-changing choices. But we’ve never really sat down and made a plan of how to go about it. After reading this post, I know that is more important than I had realized. Goals are the start of amazing things, so this makes so much sense to me.

  7. These are some great goals! One of the things that really helped my husband and me in our relationship has been our love of outdoor travel. We camp, hike, kayak, canoe, etc. as a ‘pack’ with our dogs. This pushes us to work together to do things like setting up camp. It’s a lot of fun to take on new challenges together and discover what we can each do to help succeed together! We just invested in a bunch of new, lighter-weight, camp supplies so that we can take the pups to a paddle-in site (accessible only by water).

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